Avoid the Clueless Seeker, They're Self-Motivated

On Grindr there is a particular type of seeker who doesn't know what they look for. The motivic force fueling their engagement is self-serving. Their modus operandi is one where seeker initiates a conversation with you, asking questions to reveal available options and produce a menu of activities offered by you. The target (you) is asked to share photos, locations, ideas — the heavy lifting. The seeker may cooperate if menu options you offer align to their tastes, ghosting or blocking you if they don't, without reciprocating the informations you share. Seeker will tumble if you ask back or throw back a question, evading or not having clear answers.

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• Key / Acting in Good and Bad Faith

• Topic / Human Communication